Life vs Death – What’s
easier?
I have always wanted to write on
this topic but every time, somehow I got occupied with something else. But the
news that I got this morning made me ponder over it all day.
A Bollywood
starlet, seen the highs and lows of life. Having worked with and personally
known people who are worshiped. What could have driven her to such an extreme
step? A failed Love, broken heart, financial loss…
May be news
channels will make it more clear in the coming days or may be the reasons have
gown down with her to her grave. May her soul rest in peace…
What I am here
to discuss is that SUICIDE is never an option. No matter what happens. You may
fail in love, in studies, in business, in marriage, in your career, you may
fail in life. But failing is no reason to kill yourself. People fail all the
time. Just look around you. You’ll find more people who have failed than those
who succeeded.
It’s really
saddening to hear such news all the time. Kids who have barely crossed their
teenage committing suicide because they flunked twice or because the person
they loved for two years dumped them. I know things must be much tougher than they sound right now, but that’s how life is supposed to be. It was never meant to
be easy, it wasn’t meant to be all happy all the time.
I know what
depression is. I know how it feels. I have been there. It’s like a big dark
hole that keeps sucking you into its darkness. Everything feels meaningless,
everything seems uninteresting. It feels like the world has abandoned you. Like
it’s all over and that this will never end. We start doing self pity like “why
the hell does all this happen with me all the time while other people of my age
are happily enjoying their lives?” But see closely, they too have problems. May
be even bigger than yours but they are not complaining because they are
stronger. Everybody in this world has problems.
See the people
who don’t have food to eat, a house to live, parents to love, money to live but
they are not committing suicide. They want to live.
A few days ago I
read this news about a boy in some IIT who had even got placed with Microsoft
for a package of 16 lacs p.a. He committed suicide because he loved a girl who
was getting married to someone else. Too much filmy or what? You may think but
such thoughts do come to mind. Such thoughts did come to my mind too when I
lost a few people around me whom I loved more than my life. But that doesn’t
mean that life is over and I should kill myself. This means that you need be
stronger and get your life back on track. You need to make yourself happy
again, in fact happier, to compensate the times that you have been sad.
This guy who
committed suicide for that girl didn’t think of his parents. What about them?
They must have worked so hard on bringing him up? What all they must have done
for him? How much they must have loved him? His friends, they too must have
loved his company? But all it took him was a heartbreak and he thought killing
myself will solve my problems.
Aashiqui 2 is an
awesome movie and everyone must have I loved it. I loved it too. But what makes
it a great love story is also what makes wrong for the youth. This guy who is a
star, though alcoholic but is extremely talented chose to commit suicide
because he thought that it will make her girlfriend live happily ever after.
Really? She’ll be happier this way? Yes the movie-makers did their bit to
convince how righteous it was of him to take this step and how unsolvable his
situation was. But for real, he was just a weak character. Alcoholism is just
another problem, like many others you face in life. You can fight them. Every
problem has a solution.
People lose
their spouses after years of marriage, businessmen lose all their money after
heights of richness, stars lose their stardom, some lose their health to life
threatening diseases but no reason is big enough to kill yourself.
Life is a
precious gift of god. Don’t waste it. Live it, fulfill it. Times may get hard.
It becomes overcast, dark, stormy, windy, rains heavily but after sometime it
all ends and it becomes sunny again. That’s how life is. If you are going
through a tough time, share with your friends, your family. There are a whole
lot of people in this world who want to see you living happily than to killing
yourself. Stay strong, stay optimistic.
Living is easier than dying as there are a whole lot more reasons to
live than to die. You may fail a thousand times, but you can die only
once.
Don’t think that
all this is good preaching and hard to follow. I am saying all this because I
have been through all this myself.
