Life vs Death – What’s easier?

I have always wanted to write on this topic but every time, somehow I got occupied with something else. But the news that I got this morning made me ponder over it all day.

A Bollywood starlet, seen the highs and lows of life. Having worked with and personally known people who are worshiped. What could have driven her to such an extreme step? A failed Love, broken heart, financial loss…

May be news channels will make it more clear in the coming days or may be the reasons have gown down with her to her grave. May her soul rest in peace…

What I am here to discuss is that SUICIDE is never an option. No matter what happens. You may fail in love, in studies, in business, in marriage, in your career, you may fail in life. But failing is no reason to kill yourself. People fail all the time. Just look around you. You’ll find more people who have failed than those who succeeded.

It’s really saddening to hear such news all the time. Kids who have barely crossed their teenage committing suicide because they flunked twice or because the person they loved for two years dumped them. I know things must be much tougher than they sound right now, but that’s how life is supposed to be. It was never meant to be easy, it wasn’t meant to be all happy all the time.

I know what depression is. I know how it feels. I have been there. It’s like a big dark hole that keeps sucking you into its darkness. Everything feels meaningless, everything seems uninteresting. It feels like the world has abandoned you. Like it’s all over and that this will never end. We start doing self pity like “why the hell does all this happen with me all the time while other people of my age are happily enjoying their lives?” But see closely, they too have problems. May be even bigger than yours but they are not complaining because they are stronger. Everybody in this world has problems.

See the people who don’t have food to eat, a house to live, parents to love, money to live but they are not committing suicide. They want to live.

A few days ago I read this news about a boy in some IIT who had even got placed with Microsoft for a package of 16 lacs p.a. He committed suicide because he loved a girl who was getting married to someone else. Too much filmy or what? You may think but such thoughts do come to mind. Such thoughts did come to my mind too when I lost a few people around me whom I loved more than my life. But that doesn’t mean that life is over and I should kill myself. This means that you need be stronger and get your life back on track. You need to make yourself happy again, in fact happier, to compensate the times that you have been sad.

This guy who committed suicide for that girl didn’t think of his parents. What about them? They must have worked so hard on bringing him up? What all they must have done for him? How much they must have loved him? His friends, they too must have loved his company? But all it took him was a heartbreak and he thought killing myself will solve my problems.

Aashiqui 2 is an awesome movie and everyone must have I loved it. I loved it too. But what makes it a great love story is also what makes wrong for the youth. This guy who is a star, though alcoholic but is extremely talented chose to commit suicide because he thought that it will make her girlfriend live happily ever after. Really? She’ll be happier this way? Yes the movie-makers did their bit to convince how righteous it was of him to take this step and how unsolvable his situation was. But for real, he was just a weak character. Alcoholism is just another problem, like many others you face in life. You can fight them. Every problem has a solution.

People lose their spouses after years of marriage, businessmen lose all their money after heights of richness, stars lose their stardom, some lose their health to life threatening diseases but no reason is big enough to kill yourself.

Life is a precious gift of god. Don’t waste it. Live it, fulfill it. Times may get hard. It becomes overcast, dark, stormy, windy, rains heavily but after sometime it all ends and it becomes sunny again. That’s how life is. If you are going through a tough time, share with your friends, your family. There are a whole lot of people in this world who want to see you living happily than to killing yourself. Stay strong, stay optimistic.  Living is easier than dying as there are a whole lot more reasons to live than to die. You may fail a thousand times, but you can die only once.  

Don’t think that all this is good preaching and hard to follow. I am saying all this because I have been through all this myself.